We're all familiar with the story of the wooden puppet who wanted to become a "real" boy. The theme shows up over an over again in literature. There's Asimov's Bicentennial Man later made into a wonderful movie staring Robin Williams as the robot who did eventually realize his dream of becoming human. Then, in Star Trek: The Next Generation there was Data, an android who's deepest desire was to become human. Odo in Star Trek: Deep Space Nine went through a period of time trying to become human. Seven of Nine, Star Trek: Voyager, was a Borg trying to regain her humanity.
They all want to be something they're not. They all see being a "real" person as the ultimate. It's all about belonging and fitting in. Something some of us never achieve.
As a kid, I was always on the outside although, at times, I was blissfully unaware of this. I was different. My family was different. I had no one to instruct me in the finer points of the socially acceptable. Add being bipolar to that and you have a formula for instantly putting people off and being perpetually shunned.
Sadly, this did not improve with age. Beyond having the effect of completely eliminating any possibility of a social life, this also had huge adverse effects on my career. I worked my ass off. I was generally good at what I did, above the norm. But I was not promoted. The more personable, less technically able were promoted above me, without fail.
Now, I don't have to concern myself with co-workers. But, there's still family and the people we interact with -- retail, restaurant, and medical workers among them. They all judge. We as humans judge. We say we don't. We say we shouldn't. But, we do. It's rooted in survival.
You look at someone. You measure your observations against your experience. You decide, friend or foe, good or bad, safe or unsafe. You judge. And you do it quickly. Because, our distant ancestors had to in order to avoid being eaten.
It's these judgments that make Pinocchio want to be something other than what he is.
It's one thing if Pinocchio is on a path of true self improvement and actualization. But if he's changing just to please those who have rejected him, he's doomed to a life of disappointment and frustration.
So, if there's a Pinocchio in your life, please, stop judging and try acceptance.
If you are a Pinocchio, think about why you want to change. If it's to please others, maybe you should reconsider. If it's to make the best of yourself, best wishes and never give up.